The Case For Being Rude

I’ve had this idea for a blog post in my head floating around for a few weeks and I didn’t really know how to word it. So I’m just going to take a stab at it and let the words fall where they may.

I was raised to be polite. I was raised with home training and a general sense of decorum. If I didn’t act in a way that was socially acceptable, I got my ass whipped. And being how I didn’t like my ass getting whipped I learned from trial and error not to engage in the behavior that got me in trouble again. In general, I think people (and women in particular), are taught to be sweetness and light and be non-confrontational when dealing with people whose social graces tend to be sub-par.  However, it seems that at my advanced age of 39 point 5, my patience and tolerance for rudeness is at all time low. Let’s look at a few examples, shall we?

For instance, if you happens to run into your husband’s ex-girlfriend at the mall while Christmas shopping, it is NOT OK for you to tell her the following: “Before you go, I just want to say that I appreciate how you whipped Bill into shape and then let him go to be with the woman he was supposed to be with.” …”The things that he learned from you well, it was great meeting an emotional grown-up that I didn’t have to train, you know?” In this scenario, I make the case for rudeness. You have my permission to throw a mean side-eye and walk the hell off from that drivel mid-sentence.

Or as described by Serenity23 on Twitter, it is NOT OK for you to come to someone’s house for a visit  and inquire about A) why someone’s children have so many presents under the tree B) what are the contents of said Christmas gifts and C) when is the person you came to visit is going to settle down with her children’s father. I also make the case for rudeness. That’s 3 flags on the play right there!! You have my permission to cuss that person out and escort them from your home.

I make the case for being rude and in some cases downright nasty (on a case by case basis) because folks these days have no filter. Social media gives people a falseness sense of security. We interact with people online and think we “know” the ins and outs of their lives. There is a tendency to get too informal way too fast. We overshare. Boundaries get pushed further and further in terms of our interactions. People think they can say anything, to anyone, anytime with no repercussion. And when some people go too far, and in turn get told about themselves, they act surprised.

I’m not saying make it your life’s mission to go out and be a douchebag but I certainly endorse fighting fire with fire, especially when the offender has just gone off the rails with the rudeness. I think too often we just smile, suck it up and go home to gripe about how such and such is an asshole. If said asshole, is never called out about their rudeness,  then they keep on doing what they do. And they still might be an asshole with everyone else but I bet that you won’t have an issue with them anymore. Sometimes mofos just need to get TOLD.

I know this is kind of rambly, but it’s really been bothering me as of late and I needed to get off my mind and into words. Hope I made some sense.

 P.S. If the asshole is your boss or your mama, I don’t advise getting yourself fired or getting slapped in the mouth. You’re on your own if you decide to get buckwild. LOL! 


10 thoughts on “The Case For Being Rude

  1. I am learning to fight shade with shade, especially if you are in my car/home. Don’t start none, won’t be none. And if you don’t like it, I can pull over at a metro stop or escort you to my front door.

  2. LMAO because I should have read this before dinner with his family lol. Just because you can’t hold your liquor doesn’t mean I tolerate your bs. Yup I am the one that cussed folks out in my nicety tone packed up & left. I’m too old for this shyt

  3. Yeah, people tend to be rather bold at times, especially in social media. Since I’ve gotten older, I actually have a bit more patience…for SOME people and towards SOME things. I’m a work in progress…However, folks being downright rude is not one of those occasions. LOL The scenarios you listed are an example of those occasions. Some people just need to be dealt with, with the quickness. Shut that ish down. Nothing wrong with that.

  4. I fight rudeness with rudeness! No stressing over here, my Sagittarian snark is a gift! And its clear i have not enherited that southern belle grace. LOL. Good post though.

  5. Yeah, for anyone that didn’t realize the ex/husband scenario was the purest form of shade, you’re three brands of slow. But I agree that social media has given people the balls they’d never have in real life.

  6. I am finding even close friends can be rude! Social media has taken decorum out of people’s lives!

  7. That Bill story on OneChele’s site was HILARIOUS! That dude? Wooo chile!

    Rudeness from my boss or my mama I will handle with care. But I will handle it. My mama has been three types of crazy this last year and I recognized that not acting upon it was accepting it. Nerp, not again. Same with my boss. Throw some political correctness in, but it will get addressed. Luckily, I’ve got the BOMB boss.

    As for the others? I say nip it in the bud ASAP. It’s like you said, they can continue to show their ass for the rest of the world but they will know that when approaching you, they need to come correct.

    Rude = a level of disrespect. And I don’t take kindly to being disrespected.

    I don’t follow S23 but based on what you said, it’s wrong to count my money for me when you don’t contribute to my household AND you definitely will not cross the line with me in MY HOME. Cue up Thumbelina acting a plum fool in my driveway. Nerp, not on MY watch.

    You’re right with social media changing boundaries. These folks betta recognize. Or Twitter & FB will have them get got, lol.

  8. Preach Passa Tiffany.

    I am also finding that my patience for folks saying any old type of thing has waned. If you think you can say any old thing to me surely I can respond in kind.

  9. I lost my patience with being polite and not calling people on their bullshit a long time ago. Interesting enough, when I do it I find it amusing how often checked person goes off the rails or resorts to further bytchassedness cause they are mad somebody checked them. Whatever. NO you cannot say any ole damn ignant thing to me and not get straightened out.

  10. Yeah, bosses and mamas, proceed with caution. Everybody else? Fight crazy with crazy. I concur. LOL!

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