My response to a question asked in one of my FB groups – “I don’t understand this incessant/insatiable need of so many women to have a man and get married. And I honestly don’t see why it’s so hard to get a man, if you really want one. Is this nature or nurture?” I’m paraphrasing from the original poster, of course.
My blog post of an answer:
All BS aside, I was very angry with God for a long time because I wanted to be married and felt I had done everything “right” and deserved to be married. I went to college, stayed out of trouble, didn’t have a bunch of kids and was reasonably cute so why couldn’t I get married when some of these other yamps I knew got wifed up on the regular. Then I felt a lot of shame because I felt like I was somewhat obsessed with getting married because I was so tired of being single. Don’t get me wrong I definitely enjoyed the hell out of my single life, but having to carry the load alone was getting old. It took some conversations with a counselor and wise counsel from some married friends to help me realize that it was OK to have to the desire to be married and have a family, BUT there a lot worse things then being single..like being in a f*cked up marriage. So I got busy living and doing me and the things I liked to do. Slowly, I got to a place of acceptance about my singleness and that if it was God’s will then I was going to be OK with it. And trust, it took some doing to get to that place. I felt like I finally got there in May 2009. I met my husband in June 2009. We got engaged in December 2009 and married September 2010. I’m not saying that my story will be your story. But it just might. And either way the ball bounces, you have to be right with yourself, and know that your life has purpose and meaning, whether you get married or not. And you have to BELIEVE it.