Two scenarios, what’s your opinion on them:
- I was talking with a co-worker today who recently had a destination wedding in a pretty popular place. He had almost 90 people attend his wedding and also participate in the wedding activities at their own cost (not including the actual reception). He mentioned that his new wife, was upset that they didn’t get as many gifts from friends and family. He said that she was thinking of addressing the issue with select friends because in her words, “they could have afforded to get a gift.” I mentioned that for some travel/lodging/participating their wedding activities was expensive and perhaps they considered that their gift. I mentioned that I travelled to the Bahamas to see my cousin get married and did not bring a gift and they didn’t request them of the people that chose to attend. I suggested that confronting people about why they didn’t bring a gift may not go over so well and mentioned that often people get gifts after the wedding because registries remained open. So what is your thought about gift giving for a destination wedding that you attend? Is it a hard and fast requirement??
- A young lady in one of my FB groups who is a jeans and t-shirt type of chick feels that she shouldn’t have to get all girly to attract a man (i.e wearing make-up/dresses/heels) because that isn’t her style. Yet when other ladies tell her that men are visual, she gets somewhat defensive when suggestions are made to perhaps try a little make up for enhancement or perhaps get a new pair of earrings to dress up her jeans and t-shirt uniform. Suggestions are made for her to look internally to see if she is giving off a “vibe” of not being approachable. So what would you tell a “tomboy” who wanted to meet a nice man? Is it a requirement to remake oneself for the sake of meeting the opposite sex??