Let me run this scenario by you as seen in one of my FB groups: A friend calls with a problem. She’s met a guy, they hit it off, and have gone out 4-5 times. He is extremely accommodating (in terms of doing things she likes to do on dates and whatnot) and has a really nice body. Knowing how we do when we get together on the phone, the question is asked how does dude look? The friend replies that he isn’t ugly, but he’s “not that cute”. No jacked up teeth or anything like that. HOWEVER, this friend has somehow managed to kiss this dude and LIKED it. So you ask your friend, what the issue is? The friend says the same thing: dude just isn’t ugly, he’s just “not that cute”. Is the friend being shallow? Is she being petty?
I paraphrased the scenario for the sake of brevity but here is my actual response to the question:
He isn’t that UGLY, because she kissed him and didn’t vomit. Because I can’t participate in tonsil hockey with any man I am not attracted to. Tried it. Didn’t work. If she isn’t attracted to him and he ain’t “cute enough” – which really means will my friends think he looks OK – then she needs to quit spending that man’s money and release him back into the wild for some other women who WILL find him “cute enough”.
I think it’s one thing to have preferences, it’s all together another thing to be petty. Sometimes worrying about what others think, will have you on the couch on Saturday nights!
What say ya’ll??