Journalists Roland S. Martin and Jacque Reid got into a lively debate on Twitter last night. Jacque mentioned that she had been on 4 dates with a guy and each time he’d paid, until the 5th date when he asked her to pick up the tab. She declined to do so and didn’t go out with dude again. Her contention was that he was tacky for asking her to pay DURING the date, and he’d asked her out in the first place. She mentioned that she may have paid for a date with this dude…eventually. Roland Martin countered with that women could at least offer to pay sometimes or perhaps get the tip. He mentioned that women want to have it both ways, in terms of being independent but wanting men to be chivalrous as well. There was a lot of feedback from both Roland and Jacque’s followers on Twitter. The conversation got really interested and ultimately Roland decided to have a live Ustream chat about this very topic tonight on his website at 9 EST.
Let me say that I subscribe to the rule that whoever asks, should pay, regardless of gender. For Myron and I, since we became exclusive pretty quickly we sort of fell into a rhythm where he would pay sometimes and then I would sometimes, depending on the time of the month and what we were doing. There were a couple of uncomfortable discussions about dating expectations that came up but I think we handled it pretty well.
So what are your thoughts? Should the guy always pay? At what point in a dating relationship does the lady pick up more of the financial slack?
Let me know your experiences in the comments.