I came across a link on my friend’s FB page (hey Ann) and wanted to get some thoughts on it.
When it comes to the interviewing and negotiating in the work place, are women judged for and by the rings on their fingers? And if so, why exactly?
Wearing a flashy engagement ring to an interview “has got to be a personal decision,” said Karen Katz, a principal with Forum, one of the largest executive search firms in New York City. “But it could be a damaging one.”
Katz, who coaches candidates before interviews, said that anything that distracts from what the applicant is saying is a negative in an interview. That includes bangle bracelets that make noise when you move your hands, eye-catching costume jewelry, strong perfumes, and, potentially, a very large engagement ring.
When I go to interview, I follow the standard interview tips that I’ve gotten over the years: wear black/blue/gray suit, keep your hair neat, and wear minimal jewelry and makeup. But I have to admit when I interviewed last year for my current job, I wore my engagement ring. In fact, I sometimes mentioned my upcoming wedding in the pre-interview small talk, partially to let potential employers know I was probably going to need a bit of time off. I know that it is still pretty much an employers market and any detail can be used to knock a candidate out of the running for an opportunity, but folks can be judgmental about what seems to be the most trivial of things. If I was an interviewer, I’m more concerned about a person’s qualifications!
But these days, with competition so tight, I suppose you have to do what you have to do.
When it comes time for a big interview, or the meeting where you plan to ask for a raise, should you leave the ring at home? Or is the whole idea rather ridiculous?