Myron and I are going to a family reunion over the July Fourth weekend for my dad’s side of the family in Texarkana, Arkansas. It’s going to be particularly interesting for me because the last time I went was in 2009 when I was still very much single (though Myron and I had been on 1 date) and now, in 2011 I’m coming back with a husband in tow! It’s funny how quickly things can change.
What I was mostly thinking about as we prepare to hit the highway, is how families can keep the bonds tight, in a digital age?? I remember growing up and seeing my cousins on both sides fairly regularly both during the school year and on summer breaks when I would go to stay with my paternal and maternal grandmothers. While I am FB friends with a good many cousins and aunts, I have cousins that I haven’t laid eyes on since I became an adult, mainly because we don’t run in the same circles. My older aunts seem to be the ties that bind our families these days because they tend to initiate and plan the reunions. Almost all of our elders on both sides of my family are gone. On Myron’s side, his mother’s parents are deceased and his paternal grandparents are blessedly still with us but due to dementia, don’t remember their own children. Both sets of my grandparents are dead. I don’t really know who is going to pick up the torch when my parents and other aunties and uncles are gone. Will it be me or some of my other cousins? Will folks even care enough to get together by then?
It seems like society is moving into an age where the notion of what is family is expanding to not only include blood relatives but friends. My friend and blogger buddy Monica Mingo, calls it FRAMILY. I think that’s a very good description. Framilies are what you make them and it’s not always a mom, a dad, 2.5 kids and a dog. That part is the good part. The harder part is staying connected on a deeper level with your people, when everyone is busy and doing their own thing.
Does your family have reunions? Is your family close knit or not?? Is FB where everyone is going to these days to stay in touch?