I just got back from lunch and was chatting with a co-worker of mine who is getting married next March. She mentioned how pissed off she was at one of her bridesmaids, who just happens to be the wife of her fiance’s best friend. She mentioned how she’d been reaching out to this woman with the hope of them becoming closer friends because the men in their lives were best friends. However, the wife of the BFF has been less than friendly thus far.
So then I asked her why she asked the woman to be in her wedding in the first place. She said she asked her out of courtesy, because she is the wife of her fiance’s BFF who is going to be the best man. I told her that the chick, probably accepted out of courtesy of well and probably isn’t interested in being more cordial than what is required of her as a bridesmaid. Regretfully, my co-worker said that she should have waited to pick bridesmaids. I agreed with her. It’s probably going to be a lot of drama and hurt feelings all around if she kicks the chick out of the wedding at this point.
There is nothing in the couple rule book that I know about that says the spouses and/or significant others of all parties involved all have to be buddy buddy with each other. Myron’s best friend has a new girlfriend and I met her and she seemed to be very cool but I seriously doubt we will be chopping it up on the phone daily. I think friendships tend to happen organically more than anything and if it happens that all parties become tight, then that’s great. If not, we can all still be cordial and keep it moving.
What say you?