On a group on FB I belong to, there are both single and married members. One of the members is married, and on occasion will post little tidbits about her husband and some of the nice things he does for her. One of the single members of the group sent a private message to the married member about the number of posts she makes about her husband. Evidently, the single member felt that the married member was “rubbing her marriage” in the face of the single members of the group. Understandably, the married member was very hurt by this.
This was my response on the subject:
Having also married later, at 37, I am aware of the “sting” that the single group member (edited to remove the person’s name) speaks of having felt like that myself from time to time during my single days. There were times when I couldn’t stand to be around the “marrieds” and other times when… I needed to get counsel from my happily married friends. I think we need to be careful that we don’t cause members to self-censor. I wouldn’t want a single member to not share her struggles and triumphs nor more than a married one.