Well, to wrap this little scenario up, Friend A did have a talk with Friend C, out of respect for their long standing friendship. Friend C admitted that she probably didn’t have all the information because she does not and had not spoken with her cousin (Dude’s ex-wife). Friend A re-confirmed with Dude that he was indeed single and ready to mingle. So they are going to continue to get re-acquainted. That’s that.
However, commenter ASmith made a very valid point yesterday:
Friend A has no obligation to the cousin, so yes, she should feel free to continue to see Dude. It’s one thing to respect your friends and not date their exes, but if you extend that to friend’s distant relatives (by relation or closeness) then you’ll start seriously cutting down on options. Plus, Friend A knew Dude from before. It’s not like they met through Friend C.
I agree with her. These days, instead of 6 degrees of separation between people, especially single folks, there are more like two. And when you start to add in other parameters such as where someone when to college, or if they are in a fraternity/ sorority or some other organization, their age, where they used to work or where they go to church the pool of eligible singles starts to shrink even further. If you started ruling out folks by all the restrictions that could possibly apply you might end up dating yourself!
So to thine own self be true, right?? At some point, especially in the dating game, there is bound to be some overlap. But what can you do about it? What are your own personal ethics when it comes to dating?