(Blogger’s Note: This is a guest post by Myron in response to a incident that occurred when a blogger released personal identifying information of another blogger online. He had a few thoughts on the matter.)
A lot of you saw what I had to say to the blogger who released personal information via the internet. It was very harsh and malicious. If you haven’t had the chance to read my comment in response to the post, here it is:
I know neither you or her and I will not comment on the situation as it should be handled by the two “adults”.
I will however comment on the nature of this post.
When people talk about or do things to people in order to hurt them it is called spite.
(Spite: A malicious, usually PETTY, desire to harm, annoy, frustrate, or humiliate another person; bitter ill will; malice.)
See in my opinion, men think logically. We are fixers by nature. If we see a problem, then we fix it to the best of our abilities with no complaints. If it is beyond our ability, then we seek to find a solution. In your situation, I do see that you have gone to the next level for your problem to be solved.
However you became spiteful. That is an emotional response, generally used by women.
In fixing your problem we have tools. Your tool should be your logic. Your ability to explain to the courts your plight. Your willingness and ability to take care and provide for your child. Spitefulness is a useless tool. In fact it can cause more damage to what you are trying to fix.
Ask yourself this. Can she use this against me in court? What if the judge take this and say I might relay these things to my child in an attempt to defame her mother. Could a defamation of character law suit come from this? Could I have put my child’s mother in any kind of danger by releasing her information?
Kind Sir, I urge you to remove this post. In my opinion this is nothing more than a bitch session. It resolves nothing.
My comment was not to take sides. I simply saw a potentially dangerous situation. We all, men and women, have a responsibility for others security. Especially if a child could be put in harms way. What the blogger posted may or may not have some truths to it. What he should have done is called up a few of his boys, sit down with some beers, call your baby momma all kinds of names, and rant all you want about how you shouldn’t have gotten with her. Let your boys throw in their piece. Then go home, simple as that. It’s over.
Unfortunately talking with his anger may have opened up other avenues for his problem to be worsened.
Talking with your anger usually makes you say things you do not mean, or that you may regret. I tell my wife all of the time, that I don’t think we should talk about such and such right now. Not because I do not feel like talking, but I am afraid of what my anger may cause me to say. I love and cherish her too much to let an angry moment turn into a hateful and snide remark essentially hurting the one I love most.
I was not always like that, but I had to learn from previous mistakes. That is called growing up and maturity.
As far as the situation goes, I pray that the mother and the father come to a happy medium for the childs sake. That child did not ask to be here, and it is both of their responsibilities to make sure that child is taken care of. So Mom, the child needs for the father to be there, a dad cannot be a dad unless he is involved. Dad, $1300.00 in a six month period and a few items are not going to cut it. It takes more than money and baby stuff to be a dad.