I love reading the wedding stories in the New York Times. This weekend’s story was especially touching because it dealt with a woman, who was an elite level cyclist who married a cycling buddy of hers that she met when she moved to Tuscon, Arizona. You can read all about it here. What was interesting to me is that the man that she married was a widower who had buried his first wife (who died of breast cancer) in October 2009. The couple got married last week.
I was talking with one of my sorors about a date she went on last night. The man in question is someone she’s known and been friends with since 1997, when they met at work. He was married and now is divorced because his wife left him for another man, that she is still with. They have 2 daughters together. His divorce was finalized sometime earlier this year. My soror reconnected with her former co-worker via Facebook and they have emailed, chatted on the phone and gone out a couple times. Understandably, she is excited but somewhat wary and is trying to keep things in perspective in her particular scenario because he is newly divorced. In fact, my general rule (at least when I was single) was to not date men who were “fresh meat” or divorced under a year for fear of being a rebound chick. I’ve seen it happen to women, and it was not very nice. There’s nothing worse than getting into a guy and being dumped because he isn’t ready to move to the next level in a relationship.
So it got me to thinking as I read that article and chatted with my friend, how soon is too soon to move on to another relationship? I admit I gave a slight side-eye to the couple in the NY Times article but really, who am to judge when another human being is ready for companionship. What do you think?