One of the things that we learned in marriage counseling is the need to create boundaries with family and friends. (I do need to go back and re-visit the marriage counseling that we ended up doing, but that’s for another post.) I ran smack dab into that this past week and it was kinda weird, but very necessary.
My mom called me and asked did I have some money to loan to a family member. I said that I did have it but I would need to check with Myron first. Me and my mom are very much alike in that we can get a little panicky and I guess she was on her panicky trip that day because she then snapped: “Well, why do you have to ask him??”
*cue the record scratching*
Mind you, my parents have been married 40 years so I didn’t know WHY she was cutting up.
I took a deep breath and replied: “Mama, I have to check with Myron because he’s my husband. We’ve been married over a month now. Did you forget?”
Sanity must have returned to her after I said that because she apologized. LOL!!! I was in a meeting so I went back in, then my daddy called too. I told him what happened and he just laughed and said she was spazzing out because she knows good and well she would have had to consult with him about loaning someone else some money.
I thought it was going to be hard for me to leave and cleave (and it has been adjustment for me) but apparently it’s hard for the parentals to cut the apron strings as well!
Anybody had to get family straight after getting married?? This was totally awkward!