We have stumbled upon a dilemma. We stopped by the future in-laws tonight because they’d mentioned providing some help with some of the wedding details. During the course of our conversation, they mentioned having some concern that we were planning an adult ceremony and reception. Apparently, some of their relatives have children and mentioned to THEM (WTF?) that they had concern that it was an adults only event. To top it all off, his folks aren’t totally sure that these folks will even come to the wedding.
Needless to say, both of us were caught off guard. The parents then mentioned that the help they would be willing to provide would be to pay for babysitting services. Our venue is not equipped to handle a baby sitting area and there are no places in the area to drop children off. Can you say caught off guard part 2??!! I have not accounted for any children in my wedding save my 4 year old niece as flower girl.
During the course of the conversation and to keep the peace, I mentioned that I didn’t have a problem with older children being included (age 10 and up) and that since our max was 150 guests, I would need to make some adjustments to make sure I stayed under the headcount that we had contracted for. That isn’t what we really want to do but at that point in time, Myron and I needed to re-group, reconvene and discuss it between the two of us. We moved on to other points of discussion regarding the wedding and then we left to go home.
When we got in the car the more Myron thought about it, the more bothered he was. He really wanted an adult only wedding and I readily went along with that because I’ve been at weddings where folks won’t take their crying babies out of the ceremony and little kids nearly take out people out on the dance floor at the reception. He is of the opinion that for this one day, this is our wedding and if folks can’t make arrangements for their children for a few hours and can’t make the wedding then that’s how it has to be. He was doubly pissed that his relatives (mainly uncles and aunts) were coming to his parents and not to him about this. I have already expressed to my folks that we were having an adult affair. My own brother has an infant and he knows that he’s going to need to make arrangements for my little nephew for a few hours.
In the grand scheme of things we are talking about potentially 4-6 children. But the point of us having an adult reception was to keep everybody and their mama from bringing children and extra folks that we cannot afford to pay for and to have the wedding that we’d envisioned. Both of our families are large!
Wu-Tang is for the children and so are we, just not necessarily at our wedding.
He asked me to blog this to get opinions from you guys. What would you do??? Are we wrong for feeling like this?