For those who are new to the blog, Myron and I dated 6 months before we got engaged. We will have been engaged almost 10 months when we actually get married on September 26, 2010. And for me that actually works out great.
I am in favor of the short engagement, no matter what the age but in particular if you are an older bride.
Short engagements make you FOCUS. The condensed time frame helps to filter out a lot of the wedding noise that is out there and doesn’t leave you a lot of time to second guess yourself.
You don’t have a lot of time to get caught up in a ton of wedding p.o.r.n. I had selected my colors, bridesmaids, and dress within two months of being engaged. I didn’t have time to make pretty letters to invite my bridesmaids to be in the wedding party and all that type of crap. I called them up, asked their schedules and asked them would they stand up on my behalf. Simple.
The same thing happened with my dress. Being plus sized, I knew my options were already going to be limited so I didn’t try to look ALL over Houston for dress shops. I went to David’s Bridal, tried on some dresses, picked one that was flattering and that my mama and I liked and was done with that part of it.
I nailed down a venue fairly quickly as well. At the time I wasn’t working so I made good use of my time when I wasn’t looking for a new gig and toured a number of venues. It helped me to narrow down what kind of venue and wedding I could afford pretty fast. I am not going to be DIYing a lot of my wedding decor and that type of stuff typically is time consuming so I think DIY stuff would be better utilized by someone who probably has a longer engagement.
Shorter engagements require one to research and vet your wedding vendor quickly. I have been relying more on word on mouth referrals from people who have already used the vendor as opposed to going to general wedding websites and just picking out vendors randomly.
Probably the best thing about a long engagement is the ability to save more money to pay for the wedding you want, but the that’s also more time to save more money to spend on things that in hindsight you might not even really need.
The absolute best thing about a shorter engagement is that I get to be married to Myron just that faster! 🙂
What say ya’ll about the length of an engagement? How long were you engaged??