(Editor’s Note: This is a situation that a reader of mine asked me to blog about. Please help her out with your pertinent, helpful comments. Thanks!)
My gentle reader is a in committed, serious relationship. She has been under some stress lately and her and her boyfriend had an argument. During the course of the argument, he said: (quoting directly) “sometimes you are a bitch!”. Needless to say, my gentle reader is feeling some kind of way about this. She has never been called a “bitch” before by any man she has dated. This is the first time her boyfriend has ever called her any type of name. This is not a pattern (from what I could tell from our conversation).
Her boyfriend wants them to live together but because she has issues with the way disagreements are handled she has declined to move forward with a discussion about co-habitation. His style of disagreement is confrontational, while she is the type to avoid conflict.
My gentle reader would like some opinions about her scenario.
My questions to my dear commenters:
1) How should she address the fact that she was called a derogatory name by her boyfriend? Should it be addressed at all?