When a woman gets married, in particular after being single for a while, it can be a very agonizing decision on whether to change one’s name. If a woman has achieved a significant amount of success in her career as a single person (i.e. a journalist or attorney or filmmaker) it may be hard to decide to take her new husband’s name. If she has a strong feminist viewpoint, it may be an affront to her value system to take her husband’s name. If she was a single mom, taking her husband’s name may mean she won’t have the same name as her child(ren) anymore. Perhaps, she’s her father’s only child and he has no sons, so there is a strong attachment to the name that was bestowed upon her at birth.
I guess I fall more into the traditionalist camp. I plan to change my name when I get married. I guess it just wasn’t that big a deal to me. I’m the only girl. My daddy has 2 sons. And it’s important to Myron that we have the same last name. It’s a simple thing to do that will make him happy, so why not. And for those of you who know my last name in real life…let’s just say that I’m not hyphenating it with anything. It would just sound too weird.
It’s kind of funny, though. When I was pledging my sorority in college (I’m a Delta), there was another Tiffany on my line. To distinguish between the two of us, my big sisters started calling the both of us by our last names and it stuck. To all my friends I am not Tiffany, but my *last name*, I am introduced to others as *last name* and more than likely after I get married there will be some who will still call me by my OLD *last name*. I’m OK with that and so is Myron. His MAIN concern is that my name is changed LEGALLY.
Would you change your name if you get married? Did you? Did you hyphenate? Did you both choose a brand new last name? (Apparently that’s the latest trend..which gets a side eye from me, personally)
Holla at me in the comments.
(Thanks to Tazzee for the blog inspiration!)