What are your thoughts about marrying or dating men with significantly less education than you? Have you ever done so? Why or why not? If so, what were the advantages and disadvantages of doing so? What advice would you give educated women who are not comfortable dating men with no college degree and/or men who work blue-collar jobs?
Today is the 101st anniversary of my sorority’s founding. It’s quite an accomplishment to see an organization founded and run by black woman still be in existence after over an century. So to all of my lovely Sorors, a big old Ooo-oop! Let’s keep on striving and serving our communities!
Sometimes I get private messages from women I know, asking me are they too old to join a sorority or thinking that it’s only something you do in college. And to them I say this: as long as you have breath in you, are willing to work hard to serve others, and desire the camaraderie of like-minded women, you aren’t too old or too “grown” to apply for membership in Delta Sigma Theta or for that matter in any other sorority you may have an interest in. If it’s been a personal goal of yours, then by all means follow through. Sorority life isn’t for every woman and it can be challenging, simply because it’s a group of humans working together who have different personalities, but I don’t regret not one single bit. The women I pledged with truly are my SISTERS. And for a person who doesn’t have any biological sisters, I’m lucky to have them.
Zero To Hero didn’t have a writing prompt today so this one comes from the The Daily Post:
When and where do you do your best thinking? In the bathroom? While running? Just before bed, or first thing in the morning? On the bus? Why do you think that is?
I do my best thinking in the car. I cut the radio off and just let my mind wander. I also get a lot of praying done in the car. I don’t know why I started doing this but I noticed that I was falling asleep before I was saying my prayers at night so I started saying them in the car. I figured God didn’t care when I was praying but was more concerned about me praying at all.
I think a lot in the shower too. I like my showers pretty hot so I just let the water run over me to relax and I just think. I think about things I need to get done, I think about the future, I think about what I can do to be a better wife and have a good marriage. I think about how I can be a better person. I think about the past too, good times and bad.
I guess the best places to think and reflect are where it’s quiet and where I am alone. I tend to be a worrier, so taking an opportunity to think often helps to calm me down.
Philippians 4:6 - Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.
Where do you do your best thinking???
In an effort to flex my blog muscles and get in the groove of writing again, I’m doing the Zero To Hero daily blog challenge. I’m a few days behind but I’m going to attempt to catch myself up with a few posts.
Today’s prompt: write and publish a “who I am and why I’m here” post.
I actually think my About page covers things pretty well but I’ll recap. I’m 40 years old, I’ve been married for a little over 3 years, no kids, and I started this blog to capture my wedding planning. Since I’m lazy, when the party was over I didn’t feel like starting over and my people who follow me were already here so I just kept on rolling.
I talk mainly about whatever strikes my fancy: married life, technology, food (my husband is a great cook), books and relationships.
I am a member of a historically black sorority (Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc.) and I work in the accounting/finance field. You will probably read some posts about me lamenting the job search I’ve been on for the past year.
I don’t have a blog brand and I’m not making any money on this thing. I blog because I think I have something to say, and a few people actually read it. I appreciate all who stop by, read and comment.
My blog name is The Unemployed Bride. It’s pretty self explanatory. I got engaged in December 2009. I was working a contract job at ExxonMobil. A few days later, I found out that my contract would be wrapping up at the end of the year. Thus the unemployed bride was born. I got a job about 3 months later, but the name stuck! It kinda of sums up my sense of humor as well. Make lemons out of lemonade!
Inspired by Tracy over at Starting Over Fresh, here is a list of all the books I read in 2013.
I didn’t quite hit my goal of 30 books and I’m actually about 1/4 of the way through one I started a couple of weeks ago but we’ll just go ahead and count that for 2014. I think I will stick with the same goal for this year.
One thing I’ve noticed is that I am a book whore for novel series..Once I read a book and realize the character is part of a series, I binge on reading the entire back catalog and I tend to buy them which costs money. Luckily one of my lovely sorors, Ernise over at Healthy Everyday told me how I could use Overdrive to send them to my Kindle app! I plan to do just that to save some coins this year.
So without further ado, here’s my list:
- The Racketeer – John Grisham
- Hell’s Corner – David Baldacci
- The Innocent – David Baldacci
- The Cleaner – Brett Battles
- The Deceived – Brett Battles
- Shadow of Betrayal – Brett Battles
- The Silenced – Brett Battles
- The Destroyed – Brett Battles
- The Collected – Brett Battles
- Pretty Boy Problems – Michele Grant
- The Fallen – Mark Terry
- The Serpent’s Kiss – Mark Terry
- Sins of the Father – Mark Terry
- The Valley of Shadows – Mark Terry
- The Hit – David Baldacci
- Poe – Brett Battles/Robert Browne
- The Instanbul Exchange (short story) – Adam Lebor
- Damage Control – John Gilstrap
- The Enraged – Brett Battles
- The English Girl – Daniel Silva
- High Treason – John Gilstrap
- Sycamore Row – John Grisham
- Losing To Win – Michele Grant
- The Enraged – Brett Battles
I stayed true to my literary tastes which tend to run to thrillers and mysteries, with a bit of chick lit tossed in the mix. It will be more the same this year.
So how did you do on your reading for 2013? What do you like to read? Any strong recommendations??
I think I stopped blogging in August. I turned 40 this year and though I was not depressed or despondent about doing so..I think I ran out of words. I felt like I didn’t have anything to talk about and the blogging mojo was gone. So I took a break…for about 5 months..LOL!
But the thing about writing is that it’s just like riding a bike, you never forget how, you just get back on and start pedaling.
2013, in retrospect, was better than 2012 (which totally sucked ass BTW). But it was just average, no razzle dazzle or pizazz, just kind of lackluster. I felt somewhat meh about this year, like I was just in a holding pattern so to speak. I don’t feel like I made the progress towards some of the goals I wanted to accomplish, so I plan to do a reset and attack them again in the new year.
I entered my third year of marriage in 2013 with my husband being in the hospital which was a scary reminder of our mortality. He’s a LOT better now thank God. Lifestyle changes are in process, slowly but surely. And my husband is still truly a blessing in my life. I am lucky to have married such a great guy.
I ended 2013 still working on a contract basis at my current gig but immensely grateful to have gainful steady employment and work at a company that treats me decently and doesn’t work me too hard. I’m still looking for the right opportunity on a full time basis, but I have a measure of comfort knowing that I have somewhere to go each weekday morning to earn a living.
My family is healthy, my niece and nephew are growing like weeds, and my brother found some gainful employment that suits him. They are happy which makes me happy. Many of my friends had personal triumphs this year such as new jobs, new homes, new marriages and new babies, which is always a good thing.
So more than anything, I’m grateful for being able to have a 2013. Some folks will not see this upcoming new year. And I look forward to 2014, where I have another chance to get it right. Another chance to go get my blessings and what God has for me.
With that being said, let’s do this. Allow me to re-introduce myself…