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Today I didn’t do jackshit. And it was good.

I woke up at 8AM, headed to the bathroom and got back in the bed. I rolled over on my left side and scrolled through my twitter feed. I texted with a friend who had a really good date the night before. My husband came in to give me a good morning kiss and hop in the shower. Saturdays he gets his hair cut at 9AMish or so. He dressed and rolled out.

I sat upon my bed pillow and cut on the TV. I opened up my Chromebook to mess around on FB. I read the statuses of folks running around doing errands, working out, hauling kids here and there, and generally being productive. Yeah, no.

I fell back asleep.

I woke up when Myron came back home. He brought lunch home.

We ate, watched multiple episodes of Too Cute on Animal Planet. My cell rang. I went upstairs and cackled with my homegirl for an hour or so. Myron took a nap.

I got off the phone, came back downstairs, assumed my place on the short end of the sectional, and promptly fell back asleep. When I woke up it was dark. Myron had started dinner. I got up and did some laundry. He played Madden on the Xbox.

Then I started typing this blog. Now we’re watching videos on YouTube on the big TV.

I used to feel a bit guilty about not doing much on the weekends sometimes. Especially when it seems like everyone so busy, so over-scheduled, ripping and running around. Now I don’t. It was one of those Saturdays. And you need one like this every now and then.

Sometimes more than now and then.

Simply The Best


Zero To Hero didn’t have a writing prompt today so this one comes from the The Daily Post:

When and where do you do your best thinking? In the bathroom? While running? Just before bed, or first thing in the morning? On the bus? Why do you think that is?

I do my best thinking in the car. I cut the radio off and just let my mind wander. I also get a lot of praying done in the car. I don’t know why I started doing this but I noticed that I was falling asleep before I was saying my prayers at night so I started saying them in the car. I figured God didn’t care when I was praying but was more concerned about me praying at all. 

I think a lot in the shower too. I like my showers pretty hot so I just let the water run over me to relax and I just think. I think about things I need to get done, I think about the future, I think about what I can do to be a better wife and have a good marriage. I think about how I can be a better person. I think about the past too, good times and bad. 

I guess the best places to think and reflect are where it’s quiet and where I am alone. I tend to be a worrier, so taking an opportunity to think often helps to calm me down.

Philippians 4:6 – Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.

Where do you do your best thinking???


Zero To Hero: What’s Your Name


My blog name is The Unemployed Bride. It’s pretty self explanatory. I got engaged in December 2009. I was working a contract job at ExxonMobil. A few days later, I found out that my contract would be wrapping up at the end of the year. Thus the unemployed bride was born. I got a job about 3 months later, but the name stuck! It kinda of sums up my sense of humor as well. Make lemons out of lemonade!

The View From Here – 2013


I think I stopped blogging in August. I turned 40 this year and though I was not depressed or despondent about doing so..I think I ran out of words. I felt like I didn’t have anything to talk about and the blogging mojo was gone. So I took a break…for about 5 months..LOL!

But the thing about writing is that it’s just like riding a bike, you never forget how, you just get back on and start pedaling.

2013, in retrospect, was better than 2012 (which totally sucked ass BTW). But it was just average, no razzle dazzle or pizazz, just kind of lackluster. I felt somewhat meh about this year, like I was just in a holding pattern so to speak. I don’t feel like I made the progress towards some of the goals I wanted to accomplish, so I plan to do a reset and attack them again in the new year.

I entered my third year of marriage in 2013 with my husband being in the hospital which was a scary reminder of our mortality. He’s a LOT better now thank God. Lifestyle changes are in process, slowly but surely. And my husband is still truly a blessing in my life. I am lucky to have married such a great guy.

I ended 2013 still working on a contract basis at my current gig but immensely grateful to have gainful steady employment and work at a company that treats me decently and doesn’t work me too hard. I’m still looking for the right opportunity on a full time basis, but I have a measure of comfort knowing that I have somewhere to go each weekday morning to earn a living.

My family is healthy, my niece and nephew are growing like weeds, and my brother found some gainful employment that suits him. They are happy which makes me happy. Many of my friends had personal triumphs this year such as new jobs, new homes, new marriages and new babies, which is always a good thing.

So more than anything, I’m grateful for being able to have a 2013. Some folks will not see this upcoming new year. And I look forward to 2014, where I have another chance to get it right. Another chance to go get my blessings and what God has for me.

With that being said, let’s do this. Allow me to re-introduce myself…

Believe The Hype


First off shout out to Mrs. H at The Weight of What’s Real for compiling a list of blog topics for us to post about!

Today’s topic: Famous landmark or place you’ve visited – did it live up to the hype?

The one place that I have visited that lived up to the hype and then some is the Grand Canyon. Myron and I visited it during our first anniversary trip in 2011. I know you’ve seen it in pictures or seen it on television but that truly does it no justice.

It is totally awe inspiring. To know that a river, cut a gorge into the earth that is over a mile deep and over a mile wide in some places is simply unbelievable.

There are various places that you can visit the Canyon, and the place we went to in Arizona (about a 2 hour drive from Vegas), is on the reservation of an Indian tribe who has lived there for centuries. And the tribe makes their money off the tourists that visit so I think that’s a total win. This is one of the things that makes living in the USA so great, all this natural beauty right within our borders!! You gotta get there and take your kids, if you have them.

Here are some pictures:


Finding My Mojo


I’ve been trying to recalibrate since the wedding. Life is settling down after all the hectic wedding planning and fall is settling in. I don’t really like the fall and winter seasons. I find it harder to dress for it. I am much better in getting spring and summer ensembles together. And since all my clothes are extra tight right about now, I’m definitely not looking forward to sweater weather. I’m meditating on how to handle losing some weight but in the interim, I was reading Single Ma’s Fabulous Financials and she mentioned National Blog Posting Month and how the site puts up writing prompts daily. I think I am going to take some of them and use them to get my posting mojo back. I’ve been blogging steadily since February and I am struggling with how to re-position the blog, now that I don’t have a wedding to plan anymore. I still feel like I’m a bit of a blogger newbie to have the nerve to say I’m burned out, because I don’t really think it’s that. I just think I’m still trying find my voice.

So hang in there with me, OK?? I definitely appreciate my readers (and my lurkers, too!) :)

Re-Caps: Before the Ceremony


The day of the ceremony was pretty uneventful prior to the wedding. I stayed at my parents house the night before while Myron went home and went to hang out with his best man.

That morning I woke up, drunk some coffee and ate breakfast with the fam, got all cleaned up and waited for my stylist to arrive. Here’s a picture of the wedding hair. Let’s just say my stylist did wonders with a bag of Milky Way weave and about 50 hairpins!

I took the bun out the VERY next day! My head hurt!

Outside of the venue

Our sign!!

The set up

A word about the set up. There were 64 chairs set up chapel style and the rest of the guests were seated at the tables.  I had some anxiety about how it would look but it worked out great.  And the venue broke down the the swags and runners and set up the chairs and tables for my family and bridal party so seamlessly that I barely noticed it while we were taking pictures. By the time we were finished taking pics the tables on the floor were done and they were just waiting on us to get in place so that they could place the sweetheart table in front of us. So for those who may consider a ceremony/reception in the same room, I would suggest definitely giving it some thought. It worked very well for us. And it’s definitely a money saver.

Me peeking around the corner from the bridal changing area.

(Sorry for the blurriness. I told you they were personal photos! LOL!)

The groom getting all pinned up!

Next up: Ceremony pics!!!